After you get in touch, I can answer queries you might have and we can book an initial assessment session.
The first session is offered at a discount and gives the opportunity to see how my Counselling feels to you. This is important because the relationship between us needs to be one in which you can trust and speak openly, without feeling judged in any way.
In this initial meeting I will ask for contact information and would hope to get some background about your situation and what you want to gain from your sessions with me. People come for support working through a variety of issues, including anxiety, depression, loss, anger, abuse, issues of self-confidence and self-esteem, addiction and relationship problems.
Counselling is often about being ok with the person we are, knowing our values and priorities and how to manage ourselves and our relationships so we live in the best way we can. Life does not stand still, and many people need time to consider and talk through how best to move forward when changes, whether positive or negative, happen.
Counselling works best when it takes place regularly on a weekly basis; this might be over several weeks or a longer time period. Once the Counselling relationship is established and depending on the issues, less frequent sessions could be arranged.
Counselling can involve discussion to help you access why you might see a situation in a particular way, possibly questioning whether this is helpful or still relevant for you. It can include creative approaches and learning more about how human psychology can play out for you personally and in relationships with others.
The aim is for you to become more equipped to manage your problems more easily. With increased understanding of yourself, others and your world, you are likely to find yourself coping more effectively and happily whatever your issues. This is likely to hold true whatever the problem: depression, anxiety, substances, family, relationships, work situations, wanting to change your behaviour/s, altering how you see yourself or reconsidering beliefs and values.
I hope Counselling will help you find the best ways of living the life you choose.
I understand that relationships are very different; you might be in a heterosexual or same sex relationship, in a marriage, civil partnership or with a less formalized commitment to each other.
Your particular relationship will be the focus of Couples Counselling; this will be my client and at the heart of all the work we do together.
Both partners are encouraged to take responsibility for what they put into the relationship. We will look at ways to strengthen and nurture it whether you are having particular difficulties or are seeking ways to deepen your connection.
We all bring aspects of what we have learned and experienced in life whether from our personal, social, cultural or family histories. Sometimes these ways of seeing things are no longer necessary and can be unhelpful. Awareness of what could be happening enables us to pause and consider. There are powerful techniques and tools available to help you look after your relationship.
You will take from Counselling, a greater knowledge and understanding of your relationship which will enable you to protect and develop it both now and in the future.
Couples Counselling can feel very different from having individual therapy as it is likely to feel more structured and perhaps more directed. There needs to be a willingness on both sides to engage in the process and commit to it.
There are a few important issues you need to know:
- Due to data protection legislation, I need both partners to contact me directly so that I know both sides are looking for Counselling and that I have permission to contact both partners.
- Couples Counselling involves shared communication between Counsellor and both partners. There can be no unshared communication between client and one partner.
- Sessions always include both parties; they cannot take place unless both partners are present.